Dr. Jason - Relationship Expert

It's weird how much you start taking for granted when your in a long term relationship. I realized this tonight during some sort of moment of clarity. You start to forget how much the other person themselves mean to you and start focusing on the lesser more immediate details such as what your doing next weekend or why they couldn't make it to such and such event. All this came about after I got bummed out that Mckell was going to be gone nearly half of this summer on various trips. We had discussed this summer quite a bit and had some pretty elaborate and grandiose ideas of what it was going to be to us. Parties, vacations, the whole works. It seems her family has different plans for us though, 3 trips in all so far in addition to a couple she has planned with some of her friends. All of these trips add up to about half of her summer being taken up being on vacation. Because of this I got a little bummed out tonight and found myself taking it out on her and our relationship instead of being rational and planning around them. We sat and talked for about an hour while I tried to explain why things weren't "feeling right to me" which was pointless because it wasn't that anything was feeling out of place, it's was just that I was subconsciously feeling down about this summer. After talking for awhile she had to go finish a final and I started to head home. It was during that drive that I started thinking why I was bringing up all of this when nothing I said described how I was really feeling. It was at that point I realized that nothing was wrong, except for the fact that I had lost sight of what an amazing relationship I have and let my selfishness take over by getting upset over the fact that she wasn't going to be around this summer as much as I want her to.

The moral of this story? Don't lose sight of the things that really matter after being in a relationship for awhile, remember what you have and realize how lucky you are to have it. A lot of people would kill to have what a lot of us take for granted when it comes to love and relationships. If your upset and don't know why, look at yourself and not at the other person. Chances are you'll find your answers.

Actually that sounds more like a Jerry Springer "Final Thought" than a moral...